“Your pal is becoming a minister for a day to marry you? Really? Maybe your Aunt Joan who makes great deviled eggs can be your caterer.”
Getting married will be the most important decision you make in your life. Without the wedding ceremony performed by a qualified officiant it’s just a party. So why would you choose someone who doesn’t know what they are doing to perform your ceremony? One reason is it usually would be free because a relative or friend volunteers and thinks it would be cool. I know everyone has a budget but don’t take the ceremony off your budget.
Case in point: I performed several weddings this year on the beautiful beaches of Rhode Island. As wonderful as this is it can also be a nightmare if you don’t know what your doing. For one know one will hear the officiant if the waves are crashing right behind you, or if suddenly the wind kicks up and you have no back up or this wasn’t even a consideration. Also public speaking is usually a major fear for most people and when an inexperienced officiant has a hundred people staring at them it can be paralyzing.
As you can see from the picture I included it was a perfect day for a beach wedding but the logistics of getting to this site was horrible. I had to drag my equipment from the top of the parking lot down a dirt road and then to find out there wasn’t any power source for my speakers. As a professional I had a sound system because I knew no one would hear a word I said or a word the couple said. My ceremonies take hours to develop and they are creative and interactive with guests so I wanted to make sure everyone heard every word I said to create scared space for all involved.
I also knew if the weather turned and it could on a dime near water, I would be able to remain calm and redirect everyone to a sheltered spot and continue on.
This couple shared their intimate thoughts on love and marriage with me and I created a ceremony that highlighted their love for each other and all their friends and family. It was a warm, emotional and tender moment for everyone. It set the tone for the rest of their day. You won’t get that with “A minister for a day”.